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Are you always in a hurry, or worried you aren’t getting ahead in life quickly enough? Maybe you think so much about your goals that you don’t live in the moment? If these descriptions sound like you, you’ll benefit from developing patience.

Slow down

If you’re impatient, the last thing you want is to slow down, yet, doing so can help you accomplish more. When you rush, adrenaline pumps through your system, giving you the energy to act fast. However, because you’re in such a hurry, you miss details. You don’t get much done, after all, since you don’t stop to prioritize or complete tasks well. Decide to slow down. Remind yourself you’ll achieve more if you consider information and work out which tasks need to be done first.

Practice waiting

Studies show children who learn to wait for rewards are often more successful than those who aren’t good at delaying gratification. You might be an adult now, but you can still learn and boost your chances of success in life. Practice the art of waiting when you want something. Whether you’ve got your eye on a yummy cake or feel like shopping for clothes, wait longer than usual. You’ll learn to be patient because you’ll come to realize it’s enjoyable to build anticipation. Rewards seem bigger when you don’t get them immediately.

Be present

Looking to the future is beneficial at times, helping you forge plans and make choices. Doing so all the time, though, can make you dissatisfied. When you long for what has yet to come, you aren’t content with the present. Spend ten minutes, several times a day, enjoying the moment. If thoughts of the future arise, let them go and turn your attention back to what you’re doing. As a result, you’ll learn to be patient and gather less stress.

Make friends with your impatience

Make friends with impatience? How can that help? Well, impatience is a feeling rather than a call to action. You have a choice when it’s experienced about how you behave. You can let the feeling exist rather than trying to alleviate discomfort. Once you do so, you’ll see not giving into the urge to act isn’t so bad after all. Ideal times to practice include occasions when you are impatient with others or yourself for being slow.

Think before you act

Impatient people are quick to speak and act, often without thought. You’ll develop patience if you pause before doing things. Consider your intention prior to speaking or carrying out a deed. What do you want the outcome of doing so to be? The best moment to take action is when you have clarity.

Impatience can make you frustrated and unhappy. It can even damage your relationships if you put pressure on others to hurry. You’ll benefit from slowing down and practicing waiting. Also, be present, and make friends with the discomfort of impatience. If you think before taking action too, you’ll develop patience fast, and life will get easier.

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How to Trim Your Own Natural Hair: 5 Easy Tips

Whether you’re trying to grow your hair long or keep it short, regular trims are an absolute must. They keep your hair healthy, strong and damage-free. If you’re a farmer lady on a budget, professional trims can seem like a money drain, and if you’ve got natural curly hair — well, you can’t go to just any old hairdresser.

That’s why learning to trim your own hair is such a useful life hack. Trimming is important because it reduces split ends, which cause breakage and frizz.

The good news is, while curly haircuts can be quite complicated, trims are pretty simple and totally DIY-able. Follow these tips to achieve good results.

“Dust” Your Ends

The technical term for a trim that doesn’t take any length off of your hair is a “dusting.” This means cutting around ¼ of an inch from the ends of your hair, particularly those that are damaged or split. A trim, on the other hand, involves cutting 1 to 5 inches from your hair.

If you’re new to DIY haircuts, I recommend starting with dusting. It’s nearly impossible to mess up since you’re cutting such a small amount! You can dust your hair as often as you like.

Trim Your Hair While It’s Wet… or Dry… or Straight… or Curly

Different professionals will tell you different things about the “best” way to trim natural hair. Should it be soaking wet? Dry so that you can see how the curls lay? Blow-dried straight so you can get every strand easily? There’s no “right” answer. Whichever state allows you to easily see each strand, section your hair out, and style your hair afterward will work. My hair can be pretty frizzy while dry, so I usually cut it when it’s clean and a little bit damp.

Work in Sections

Separate your hair into easy-to-work-with sections, starting from the bottom and working towards the top. Some professionals advise cutting just 1-2 curls at a time, but this can be quite tedious! I advise starting with 4 sections on each side of your head, and increase or decrease the amount as needed.

If your hair doesn’t already have a style/cut, try cutting graduated layers into your hair, with the shortest layers at the top. This adds shape and volume and helps your hair to frame your face.

If your hair does have a style, just cut the same amount from each section. Start small, with about an inch — you can always cut more later.

Search and Destroy Method

To limit the amount of hair that you have to cut, you can simply section your hair and examine each section for damaged ends. Then cut those strands only, rather than all of your hair. This is the search and destroy method.

You may need to cut more or less hair, depending on the needs of your hair. Damaged or overgrown hair will need more of a trim.

Trim Every 4-6 Weeks

Once you’ve got a method down, you should be trimming your ends about every 4-6 weeks to keep your hair healthy. In most cases, all you’ll need is a light dusting or a short trim to keep it in good shape.

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