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People often think of forgiveness as beneficial for the individual who is pardoned. Indeed, letting them off the hook can help them feel good. Exonerating others may also benefit you though. Additionally, when you stop blaming yourself for mistakes, you are free from stress and can learn from them.

Forgiveness helps you drop pain

Holding a grudge is hard. People can become crippled under the weight of anger and resentment. As they let go, the pressure lifts. They are free and recognize bitterness once held them in bondage. When liberated, they look at what caused their distress with new eyes and begin to heal.

Gain a healing perspective

When people’s emotions cloud with resentment, they can’t see the entirety of what’s occurred. They look at the situation with narrow vision. Their vision widens If they practice forgiveness. They can then recognize the suffering of whoever they once blamed for their anguish. Such understanding is healing.

Forgiveness isn’t the same as acceptance

It’s possible to forgive others without accepting what they did that hurt you. By forgiving, you don’t give them your blessing to mistreat you. Nor do you send the message that their behavior was okay in the past. When you forgive, you signal you’re ready to move on and learn from the experience. Doing so provides insight and awareness, which you can’t gain when you don’t let go of misgivings.

Why forgiving yourself is advantageous

People are often less forgiving of themselves than they are of others. They experience guilt and shame for past behaviors, which makes them ill and unhappy. When you forgive yourself, you are free from self-punishment. You might still wish you had behaved differently, but accept you can learn from your mistakes and not repeat them.

Forgiving yourself also helps you recognize others mistakes are part of a learning process too. You may not always like how they act, but you can see they do what they can with the knowledge they have at the moment. Knowing no one is infallible helps you feel compassion for them and yourself.

Forgiveness widens awareness and compassion. It provides an expansive view of the world and the behavior of others. When you forgive, you set yourself free from the burden of painful emotions that weigh you down.

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Frugal Gift Ideas – Beeswax Candles

Who doesn’t love the warm comfort of a candle on a cold winter’s night? If you’re scratching your head wondering what to gift your loved ones this holiday season, look no further than a homemade beeswax candle.

This is an ideal gift if you keep bees on the homestead. While you can always gift honey, beeswax isn’t in short supply, either. Don’t toss your beeswax! Collect it all year round to form into delightful gifted candles.

Here are my two favorite ways to make beeswax candles as gifts.

Method 1

Use this method to create beeswax candles in a jar. These are easier to store, transport, and gift. It’s a great option if you’re new to making candles.

Supplies:

● Grated beeswax (about 5 pounds)
● Wicks
● Tape / super glue
● Glass jars
● Double boiler
● Popsicle sticks

Directions:

1. Melt your beeswax in a double boiler.
2. While the beeswax is melting, set up your jars. Glue or tape the end of the wick to the bottom of the jar. Wrap the wick around your popsicle stick, and let the stick lie horizontally on the edge of the jar.
3. Once the beeswax is completely melted, carefully pour it into the jar.
4. Adjust the wicks as needed.
5. Allow the beeswax to cool at room temperature until they’re solidified, about 2 – 3 hours.
6. Snip the wicks to your desired length.
7. Decorate the jars and gift away!

Method 2

Use this method if you want to make more traditional beeswax candles without a container. They’re perfect for a Menorah! For this method you’ll only need the beeswax and wicks.

Supplies:

● Grated beeswax (about 5 pounds)
● Wicks
● Parchment paper
● Bowl of water
● Double boiler

Directions:

1. Melt your beeswax in a double boiler.
2. While the wax melts, lay out your parchment paper and bowl of water. Cut your wicks to the desired length. If you want a 7-inch candle, for example, you want 16-inch wicks. You’ll be folding the wick in half and dipping both ends to make two candles at once.
3. Once the wax is melted, dip your wicks. Remember to fold in half and dunk both sides. Each wick will make two candles.
4. Dip the wicks into water to set, then shake off excess water.
5. Repeat this process until your candles are to their desired thickness. It’s a labor of love, but it’s worth the work!
6. Once the candles are thick enough, chop off the bottoms of the candles. This straightens them out for easier use.
7. Cut the candles apart and trim the wicks, if needed.
8. Let the candles continue drying for 24 hours before burning.


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