The law of attraction has become a popular topic in books, films and journalism as well as amongst “alternative” thinkers. It’s fashionable nowadays to say that we draw all of our life experiences to us energetically, and that our energy is created through the focus of our thoughts. What is not so often pointed out, however, is that this “law” applies even to something as intimate as our bodily image, our physical appearance.
If we constantly influence our external environment with our thoughts and feelings, then clearly the closest (to us) portion of that environment is our own physical form. It is no accident that we may appear youthful or aged, sexy or unattractive, slim or voluptuous in the eyes of others. The effect that your appearance has upon a beholder is not the mere chance result of the way your features formed in accord with some strictly biological design.
Your image is the reflection of your thoughts and feelings about yourself, your worth as a person, your relationship to others, your place in the world and many other considerations. You could think of your physical body as a kind of statement that you’re making to everyone with whom you may come into contact.
Your beliefs about yourself mold your appearance as surely as they create every other aspect of your life. Some schools of alternative or New Age thought might suggest that you adopt very simple methods for changing aspects of yourself that you feel unsatisfied with: Just think good thoughts, or repeat positive affirmations and things will change. But if you explore your personal reality more deeply, you may find that you have strong underlying reasons for wanting to look the way you do.
Maybe you feel that you’re not a good, worthy person and therefore you shouldn’t look attractive. Maybe you fear drawing “the wrong kind of attention”. Maybe you believe there is something unhealthy about being thin. There are countless inner reasons why we choose to appear the way we do before the eyes of the world. Discovering what your reasons are will require some personal exploration. This is a journey that goes a lot smoother if we truly believe that all the answers to our lives do lie within us. Taking personal responsibility for the reality that you have created for yourself will open up the doors to new, unforeseen possibilities. You will see that the road you chose is but one of many roads that are available.
The effect that our appearance has on others is determined by inner qualities that we may or may not be aware of. If we want to change the way we look, the way that others perceive us, we have to become conscious of our real beliefs about ourselves. Diets and exercises will produce temporary results at best if we don’t first change the way we think about ourselves. Our thoughts always materialize in the world, whether it’s in the form of the relationships we draw to ourselves or in the reflection that we see when we look into the mirror.